Staying happy in a relationship and loving for years and years can be tricky at best. Men and women get sucked into the logistical ruts they know as their lives as husbands, wives, life partners, and taxi services to kids.
Couples may notice that being together doesn’t feel the way it used to; life has become more transactional and the focus seems to have shifted to schedules and tasks and away from enjoying each other’s company and being BEST friends.
That’s why Couples in Trouble Relationship Expert Dr. Jackie Black developed the Full-Day Marriage Intensive program.
The Full-Day Marriage Intensive is exactly what Couples in Trouble need so that both parties can use their awareness of the behaviors that don’t match their commitment to each other and a long and loving marriage, rather than just coping through the loss of closeness and fun together.
In one, 8-hour Marriage Coaching session, Dr. Jackie Black helps couples uncover what has deteriorated in the relationship and to begin to have a sense about what is required to repair the part of the dynamic that has become weakened or broken over time; explore tools and strategies that will positively affect that relational dynamic; then develop an action plan so couples can move forward into stronger and closer connection with each other.
“Just because there are competing priorities and tremendous external pressure on your marriage, it doesn’t mean that your marriage has to feel the impact. It means it’s time to find new answers and acquire new skills to get your marriage back to being loving and strong,” says Dr. Jackie.
To head off this potential collision and to transform from the day-to-day rut of family living to rediscover the spark of appreciation that brought partners together at the start, Dr. Jackie offers these practical strategies and timeless relationship tips for a healthy marriage.
#1: Create Intimacy with Deliberate Choices and Actions
“Deliberate choices and actions send the unmistakable message that you are happy to be with your partner and that your life is better and richer together than it could ever be alone,” Dr. Jackie says. “Intimacy is the result of celebrating each other’s presence and celebrating being in each other’s presence. Always remember to be encouraging and intentional.”
#2: Make Time to Connect
Think back to when you first started dating. What did you enjoy about being together? What activities did you both enjoy doing that you no longer make time to do? If you asked yourself, or your partner, right this minute why love bloomed in the first place, how would you answer? “Both partners must carve out quality, alone-time together every week, take responsibility for it, and ensure nothing gets in the way of planned time together,” Dr. Jackie maintains.
#3 Create Romance and Time for Sex
Deepening romance in a relationship requires intention, commitment and planning. Both partners are equally responsible. “Romantic and sexual energy is created moment by moment, hours and days BEFORE you actually feel romantic or are interested or welcoming of receiving your partner sexually. Those f-e-e-l-i-n-g-s are the result of consistently receiving loving, kind, caring, thoughtful behaviors over time. Each partner must intentionally string those behaviors together like a stand of exquisite pearls. The giving partner intentionally gives and the receiving partner intentionally receives in ways that they BOTH know they have been received and appreciated,” Dr. Jackie explains.
About Couples in Trouble Marriage Educator and Coach Dr. Jackie Black
Jackie Black, Ph.D, BCC is an internationally recognized marriage educator and relationship coach who serves couples in trouble who are serious about doing what it takes to stay together through her Full-Day Marriage Intensive and other marriage coaching programs. Named by COSMOPOLITAN magazine as one of their most beloved international love gurus, Dr. Jackie guides couples out of trouble to reignite the spark in their marriages step by step and day by day. Hundreds of happy clients around the world turn to Dr. Jackie’s programs to save and improve their relationships. Dr. Jackie is a frequent guest expert on radio programs throughout the U.S. and Canada and on Internet radio and is regularly cited in major magazines in the U.S. and abroad. To interview Dr. Jackie Black, engage her to speak, and/or to access her gift eGuide offering 3 Fast + Fun Ways to Reignite the Spark in Your Marriage TODAY, visit http://www.drjackieblack.com.