By Kathleen Hoy Foley, Special for USDR
Trauma is a life-long injury. Just like an amputated leg will not grow back, an emotional part of a trauma victim will never be restored to what it was before trauma. This damage dramatically alters the remainder of the victim’s life.
Trauma is manageable, but it is not heal-able. Here are four other things you should know about trauma:
1. Trauma Is a Life Long injury. The first step is to recognize this fact. Just like an amputated leg will not grow back, there is an emotional part of a trauma victim that will never be restored to what it was before trauma. This damage dramatically alters the remainder of the victims life.
2. Emotional Freezing. A victim may emotional freeze at the point of the trauma. Trauma can short circuit the emotional development of a victim. They move forward with building their life unaware that this emotional freezing has taken place. It only becomes apparent if an event triggers a flash back. At that point a trauma victim may react in a way consistent with the age they were at the point of the trauma and not their present age.
3. Resolution and management. Through hard work and commitment, victims will be able to identify how and by whom they were traumatized. They will have a greater understanding of how this trauma has impacted their life. This resolution will enable a victims to recognizes how trauma affects their life today and how it will affect their life in the future.
Through this recognition a victim will come to understand that management strategies are needed for creating boundaries for moving forward with their personal, spiritual and emotional growth.
4. Taking Charge of your life. As a victim develops a greater understanding of what was done to them, who did it and how society, culture and religious tenants obstruct their personal development, they will find it necessary to make life changes. A victim may find it necessity to sever or alter relationships with family members, friends and social and cultural organizations that they now understand are unhealthy. This action in not unlike a drug addict who has to stop associating with those people and places that threaten their commitment to sobriety.
Through hard work and commitment, you can identify the trauma and how this trauma has impacted your life. You can recognize how trauma affects your life today and how it will affect your life in the future. Through this recognition, you’ll see the need to create boundaries and establish strategies for moving forward with your personal, spiritual and emotional growth.
Kathleen Hoy Foley is the Author of Breaking Through Silence; A No Nonsense Love Letter to Women and Woman In Hiding, A True Tale of Backdoor Abuse, Dark Secrets and Other Evil Deeds. She and her husband, Phil, formed Women In Hiding Press and offer all their books free of charge. Kathleen and Phil also give seminars on spirit repair. Connect with her online at HYPERLINK “http://www.womeninhidingpress.org” www.womeninhidingpress.org