By April Dye, Contributor for US Daily Review.
After seeing so many stories in the news lately, I just can’t get over all the missing and abused children and how so many of them are due to a parent or someone close to them. I read a story this morning about a grandmother who threw her granddaughter over a balcony at the mall because she was mad at her daughter for getting pregnant. I read another story about a father who shot his son in front of his dying wife. There is the Cassie Anthony story. Of course, Joan Crawford’s well told tale of abuse of her children. I grew up next to a family whom the father was found to have sexually abused the daughters and the mother did nothing. There are so many children who are in foster care.
I look at my children and the thought of ever hurting them, in any way – much less to beat them or kill them, does not even register. I would fight tooth and nail for their safety. I pray protection over them every night and every morning. I get a lump in my chest as I watch them walk down the halls at school, sit in their classrooms learning or eating lunch and visiting with their friends.
I don’t understand parents who can abandon their children. Parents who just quit having anything to do with them, who pretend that they don’t exist. Children of divorce are at a high risk of this, especially if one of the parents moves out of town.
My children are 9 and almost 8 (in two months) and they look at me for approval, and love and acceptance. They want my attention and love. I think no matter what age we may be, we are always looking for and wanting that approval, love and acceptance from our parents – estranged or not.
I find children to be one of the greatest gifts God can give to someone. The love I feel for my children is only a fraction of the love God feels for me, and I think he lets us be parents to give us just the slightest glimpse of it.
There is no excuse for abandoning, abusing or in any way emotionally, physically or mentally harming your child. There is a difference between discipline and abuse.
If you are not patient enough, not ready, or just plain don’t want kids – then don’t have them. If you happen to be pregnant then you find a good home for that baby. But never take your disappointments or aggravation out on them.
If you are divorced with children, don’t replace your children, integrate them into the new family – don’t make them feel like they are being replaced. Be sensitive to their situation and how they feel.
Listen to your children. Let them know they are wanted and loved. Let them know they are important. I was watching a television show and the father/grandfather of the show was going to visit his own mother, and he was anxious and nervous – because his mother never made him feel important or loved. It took his son telling her what he did for her to make her aware of her inactive affection and outward approval of him. Children and adults experience this on a daily basis.
It is a sad commentary on parents. Life is too short and time with your children is too short to throw it away out of selfishness. Children will one day become adults. We need to cherish the time we have with them and give them the support and love they need so that one day they can be parents who do the same.
Hug your kids!
April Dye is a Christian wife and mother of two. She loves to hang out with family, read, watch movies and television, and her job. You can follow her on face book at facebook.com/April Vestal Dye and clardye.blogspot.com.