By April Dye, Contributor, USDR.
When did it become fashionable to be a victim?
Let’s go back and think about the pioneers, the people who helped build this country into the amazing place it is.
These men and women were fighters, go-getters – they had grit. They had many obstacles to overcome yet they stuck it out and fought tooth and nail to survive – to grow the land, the towns, the economies.
What about the women who had to go into the workforce during WW2. How about our soldiers who go into the battle field knowing they are risking their lives to help others have the same freedoms we have. Think of their families, wives and husbands who have to be home and take care of their families yet have the burden of worrying about their spouse and whether they will make it home.
Look at the women who stood up for equality and the right to vote. For blacks who took to the streets (peacefully) for equality. These people were strong. These people were tired of being victims. They became victors.
We have become a nation of wusses. Yes that is right I said wusses. Never have I ever seen or heard so much complaining. Never have I seen so many find a reason to blame others for where they find themselves.
America is the land of the free and the home of the brave. Do we have times in our past where we made mistakes – of course. Do you?
Are there poor people? Yes. Unfortunately there will always be poor people. Is it fair – maybe not. However, everyone is given the same opportunity. Every child can get a free education. Will it be perfect, no but we have it. There are some countries where they only have elementary education – provided usually by American charity organizations. There are some countries where girls are not permitted to get an education at all. In other countries people are starving because their land has been so overused that is no longer can produce food. Those countries get help again from American charity organizations.
Are there people who don’t have jobs? Yes, some by choice and some due to bad economic times. Sometimes it is due to the person not wanting to take lower paying jobs until they can find something that pays better. For some it has become a lifestyle and expectation to live off of others – and the government makes it easier to stay on that to get off.
I am where I am today due to the choices I made in my education and jobs I chose to take. I didn’t have very much motivation so my usual jobs were in the secretarial fields. My husband on the other hand was a very motivated person who knew what he wanted to do and worked hard to get it. He has a masters and a doctorate degree and because of his hard work, we can have a comfortable lifestyle. No one gave it to him. We still have a loan to pay off. We have been paying it off for 15 years now and was going to be 7 years more but by making certain decisions to move to a smaller house and live on a fairly tight budget we now only have 3 ½ more years left to pay on it. We didn’t ask anyone to help us and did not expect anyone to.
Are there some people that are treated unfair because of the color of their skin? Unfortunately yes and this can be said by someone from every race. No one race can claim they are the only ones persecuted. There will always be a few people who were raised to hate someone else because of what color they are. You know what the funny thing about this is? You can’t help what color you are. People make blank statements like “all whites are racist” and use the term “white privilege” or “blacks are thugs” or “hoodlum” and the lists goes on. No one should be judged by the color of their skin but instead by the person they are trying to be. If you don’t like the way people look at you maybe you need to take a long look at yourself. Maybe it isn’t the other person looking at you with the problem, but you. What image are you portraying? Who are you hanging out with? Do they hold you up or bring you down? Sometimes it is a hard look and at some point every one of us has to have that discussion with ourselves. It can be difficult but if you don’t like where you are maybe it is time to have that conversation. We might have some racism in this country but it is nothing compared to some other countries where whole groups of people hate one group so bad they want to wipe them off the face of the earth and it has been going on for thousands of years.
Why can’t we just look at each other and realize that we are all in the same boat. We all have baggage no matter the color of our skin or the balance in our bank accounts.
Especially in America, we should all be happy for each other, have empathy for each other and help each other (without government interference) and you know for the most part, I see that every day.
Take a look at the world. There are people who are being massacred, beaten, raped, and tortured for the pleasure of others. There are monsters out there who think nothing of killing or selling a child, a mother or a family. We hear a lot about paying our “fair share” when it comes to taking from the “rich” and giving to the “poor”. But when did it become “fair” to take from people who have worked hard and took chances to start businesses to give their earnings to those who don’t work or maybe have chosen jobs that don’t make millions or chose not to go learn a trade. You know the funny thing is that usually the “rich” that end up getting hurt the most are the middle class who were the ones promised help.
America is great and I am very blessed to have been born here and I truly understand anyone that wants to live here but in America we have laws, laws that make America what it is and why people want to come here. If you truly want to be an American then you will follow the laws to come here. Anything worth having is worth waiting for. When you break the law you hurt those who follow those laws – intentional or not. If you want to be free you have to act free and being somewhere illegally is not the freedom you should want.
Instead of looking for reasons to blame others for our circumstances we need to pray, look into our hearts and find a way to get where we want to be. Everyone has problems. They may not look like yours but if you looked at theirs you might see yours are not so bad.
If you are an American, you are more blessed than you can imagine. Quit looking at the past, quit blaming others, quit being a victim – show some grit and become the victorious person you want to be.
We are blessed to live in America – the land of the free and the home of the brave. That used to mean something. Let’s make it mean something again and come together and love each other, empathize with each other and help each other.
God bless you and God bless America!