By April Dye, Contributor to US Daily Review.
You know as much as I love the things that we can do and know now with technology and medicine, I miss the days when people were “old fashion”. One main reason is the lack of courtesy that is running rampant among us. I blame women’s lib for starters.
I was taking some packages into the post office a few years back and my hands were full. I literally had to put them down to shut my car door. So I am walking up to the door, I wasn’t quite there yet and a man walked out. He didn’t even stay and hold the door open. Then there was another man who walked past me and just walked in the door. Now I am a short person and it was quite obvious that my load was awkward. Not one person held the door open for me or even asked if I needed help. However, to some extent I don’t blame them.
I had a woman friend once who was appalled when a man tried to open a door for her, her thought was that it made her look helpless. I thought he was being nice.
What happened to boys going up to the door to pick up their dates, now they just honk or text? I find that totally unacceptable for the boy as well as the parents who let it happen – both sets. If a boy were to honk to pick up my daughter for a date or for that matter to hang out with my son, they would not be going with those kids until they came to the door, if at all. It is disrespectful to the one being picked up as well as the parents of that child.
This is my biggest pet peeve of all…elevator courtesy! Can you please wait to walk in until I walk out! That goes with any door actually.
How about walking with the traffic at the mall instead of against it.
Whatever happened to handshakes or even a hug in greeting? Sorry, I’m a hugger. If you don’t hug me, I am assuming you don’t like me (okay maybe not on the first meeting but after awhile…come on).
How about a smile when you make eye contact with someone or even a hello. Children are the worst about it these days. Sometimes their parents are just as bad if not worse.
Okay another big pet peeve – sorry if I hurt anyone’s feelings – if your baby/child is crying or yelling or just being loud, please step out of the sanctuary at church. Not only are you disturbing the people next to you, it is also disrespectful to the pastor or whoever is leading the service. I know you think you can quiet them but how about until they are you quickly exit out the doors. That is what the pews in the back are reserved for so you can make a quick dash out. I have been there so I know it can be done – inconvenient maybe, courteous definitely.
And for goodness sake can I get a please and a thank you. I would also like a yes ma’m instead of a yea (just children please I’m not that old).
We as a society have forgotten what it is to be courteous. To show some kindness. To let someone know you saw them. They used to have schools where you could go to learn manners and niceties, parents used to believe that was part of raising children.
Open a door for someone.
Let someone walk out of a door before you walk in.
Smile in passing or even say hello.
Say please and thank you when asking for something or when you are being helped.
These may seem like small things but usually it is the small things that lead to bigger ones.
Be courteous today, you might be surprised how it will be turned back on you. You reap what you sow.
April Dye is a wife and mother of two. She loves to read, watch movies and television, study the Bible, hang out with family and her job. You can follow her on face book at facebook.com/AprilVestalDye and clardye.blogspot.com.