Someone once said, “if you live long enough, you’ll know how it feels to be cheated on.” Much like illness, cheating is all too commonplace and most people know what it’s like to experience the sentiment. Roughly half of all people admit to cheating at least once in their lives, and an even greater number of people have been on the other side of the equation.
Often in hindsight, there are clear indicators and red flags signaling the behavior. Knowing what to look for and how to spot problematic behaviors is the first step in determining whether your spouse or partner is engaged in inappropriate behavior.
Let’s shine some light on the subject by outlining four of the biggest telltale signs of an unfaithful spouse or significant other.
Combined Changes of Behavior
People are quite attuned to other people’s behaviors when they’ve been around them for some time. A sudden change of behavior can be instantly recognizable and is often the first indicator of a cheating spouse. While this alone does not necessarily mean that your significant other is being unfaithful, it is cause for initial alarm, especially when combined with other factors.
If they’re suddenly being more protective of their mobile devices, changing their clothing or hair, making new friends and making other seemingly abrupt changes, it may be time to consider the possibility.
A Sudden Fascination with Digital Mediums
A very large percentage of unfaithful encounters now begin in the digital realm, as it is incredibly easy to find others for romantic encounters online. As cheating statistics 2019 show, a large portion of infidelity begins online. If your spouse is suddenly glued to their phone beyond normal levels or is spending lots of time in front of the computer, consider this another possible indicator of infidelity.
Lack of Intimacy
One of the most common indicators of cheating according to those who have experienced it is a sudden drop in intimacy. This can take many forms and isn’t exclusive to sex. From holding hands and giving hugs to simply spending time with one another, intimacy may suddenly decrease in frequency or even stop altogether.
This often occurs because the cheater in question is experiencing intimacy via somebody else and/or feels guilty about this. While a decline in intimacy can signal a loss of interest not due to cheating, if it present along with other items on this list, the possibility of cheating must be considered.
Sudden Increase in Work Obligations
Another important data-point in the cheating statistics linked above is the percentage of cheating episodes that involve a co-worker: 36%. This is massive and highlights how the workplace can be a hotbed of temptation for certain people. If your significant other suddenly has to start “working late” more often or is associating with one or more co-workers more in work-related or out-of-work situations, there’s a meaningful chance that something more is going on behind the scenes.
Any one change in behavior or unusual observance isn’t necessarily indicative of an unfaithful spouse, but multiple changes combined often indicate something is wrong. Keep an eye out for these four behavioral shifts and understand that – at minimum – they often signify that something in your relationship needs addressing.