Have you ever stopped to wonder if you were happy? Do you enjoy your family? Do you enjoy your job? Do you enjoy your friends? Do you enjoy your life?
If the answer to any of those questions is no, you need to ask your self why. Now if you would have asked me any of those questions about 15 years ago, I could have listed a whole bunch of excuses and named off a whole bunch of people who were responsible for my horrible life. There would have even been some people who would have agreed with me.
But you know what?! YOU are the only one who can make you happy. You are the only one who can look past the hurts or disappointments in your family, jobs and friends. You can choose to be a happy person or you can let people and circumstances destroy your life.
Is my life perfect? No, but I am happier than I have ever been in my 40 years. I made the decision that I was the only one responsible for my happiness. My life growing up wasn’t perfect. None of us are perfect. Could I have blamed my poor choices and insecurities on my parent’s divorce and issues that go along with divorce and remarriage? Sure, and I probably did for a lot of years. Could I have let everything people said hurt my feelings and play the victim? Sure, and I probably did that too. Does it “suck” (sorry but perfect use of the word) that sometimes people are selfish and only think of themselves and don’t care who they hurt? Sure, but there comes a time in your life when you need to suck it up, put on your big girl panties and quit feeling sorry for yourself.
It doesn’t matter how people/life treats you. It is how YOU RESPOND to it.
Quit looking at what you don’t have and look at what you do.
Did my parents get divorced? Yes. But I still had two parents and four grandparents who loved me. I got at least 2 times to celebrate birthdays and Christmas. I also gained another father, mother, brother and two more sisters.
Did I get married (too young) and divorced within a year and a half? Yes. But I learned that I didn’t have to settle and gained a greater self worth. I also met the greatest man I have ever known and he has given me love, respect, security and two beautiful children and we are raising them in a house full of love.
Am I beautiful, tall and thin? My husband and kids think this short, freckled face hasn’t lost her baby weight 40 year old lady is (almost) perfect.
I’m healthy and happy because I have embraced my life and realize that any obstacle I had or will have makes me who I am. If you don’t learn and grow than you will just become bitter and sad.
Enjoy this life it won’t last forever.
April Dye is a wife and mother of two. You can follow her at clardye.blogspot.com.